Humanist Weddings

Weddings

You do, we do too!

There is no such thing as a ‘traditional’ Humanist wedding.

From the off, I’ll stress that this is YOUR wedding and YOUR day – so, we’ll work together to create the perfect ceremony for you. I’ll gently remind you about filling in your M10 forms (until you finally do it) and I’ll give you ‘homework’. I want to know all about you, your journey that brought you as a couple to your wedding day, and all your adventures along the way. We’ll laugh, and we might even have a wee cry (I’m good at bubbling!) We can discuss symbolic gestures: hand fasting; quaich; lighting candles etc – but I’m not too keen on jumping the broom. For anyone wearing heels and a wedding dress, this has the potential to end up in disaster (although it might be funny!!!) But, by choosing me to compose and conduct your ceremony, you have the freedom to work with me to make sure you have the perfect wedding ceremony that is a true reflection of you and your partner.

It’s all about you!

Choosing a Caledonian Humanist Association wedding gives you the freedom to put your personal stamp on one of the biggest days of your life.  The ceremony is based on you and your relationship.

YOU are in control.

From music to readings, vows and your story, it’s all about what you want. I’ll guide you through each and every step. You can have family members participate in the ceremony itself (which we can discuss at a later point), but the bottom line is – you decide. You are completely free to have the service that you want, well, within reason. As long as it’s safe and dignified, I’m happy to comply.

You’ll be free to say, in your own words, why you’re here, what you’re promising to your partner, and where you see your future. This can be really exciting, but for some, it can be a wee bit scary at the same time! There are plenty of great ideas to help you do this, and I can provide examples of vows, readings etc. There are only two people who know why you’re getting married: YOU and YOUR partner. So I’m not going to tell you what marriage means. Taking the time to think about why you’re getting married, and deciding what you want to tell your family and friends, is the key to making your wedding absolutely your own.

Did you know that Scotland is one of only 6 countries in the world that recognise Humanist weddings? I am honoured to be able to say that I am authorised by the Registrar General to conduct legal weddings and civil partnerships. I am also happy to conduct a non-legal Wedding Celebration for couples, who for example, married abroad and now want to have a ceremony that includes their family and friends. In addition, many couples who have been happily married for years choose to renew their vows when they reach a particular milestone. 

A Humanist wedding is not a religious service but is based on the life story of the couple, what love and marriage means to them and their hopes for the future. Therefore, there is nothing in it that will make those of religious faith feel uncomfortable. Respect for others and their beliefs is at the heart of everything I do. All my ceremonies are warm, inclusive and welcoming. A true celebration of why we’ve come together.

Choosing a Caledonian Humanist Association wedding gives you the freedom to put your personal stamp on one of the biggest days of your life.  The ceremony is based on you and your relationship.

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If you want to find out more or for an informal no-obligation chat about my style of ceremony and how to proceed

Downloads

Click on the buttons below to download the "Booking Form" and a booklet on "Thinking About Getting Married?"

F.A.Q.

Frequently asked questions

If I choose a Humanist Ceremony, will I still have to visit the Registrar to have my marriage legalised?
No – I’m authorised by the Registrar General to conduct your ceremony and legally marry you.

Do we have to get married in a Hotel?
No – I can marry you anywhere that I consider to be ‘safe and dignified’.  Therefore, you have a greater choice of venue – be it a hotel, local community hall, your back garden or even a stone circle, it’s up to you.

If we wanted to, could we get married at midnight?
Indeed, you could – as long as your venue was well lit and therefore safe.  I am authorised to marry you at any time of day, or night.

Do you conduct same sex marriages?
Absolutely!

Do you undergo any training?
Yes, I am fully trained, qualified and regulated by the Caledonian Humanist Association.  I am fully insured, PVG checked and have to adhere to a strict code of conduct.

How much does it cost?
The fees are set by the Caledonian Humanist Association and this year, it is £450.  A £100 non-refundable deposit is required at the time of booking, to secure your date.  The balance is then due 14 days before your ceremony.  Should you require a wedding rehearsal, there is an additional fee of £100.